Couple Time

With the kids away I am trying to make the most of couple time!

To say the intimacy has gone from our relationship is probably a bit of an understatement, and is exacerbated by the medications W is on. For fear of giving too much information (blush!) W has no trouble getting into the mood, or staying in the mood, but has trouble finishing off so to speak (I am so red typing this and can't believe I am sharing to be honest!). I have told him that holding hands or cuddling or even just kissing would be nice, but he believes his virility is being questioned. This is not helped by my insistence of using contraception earlier in the year. I know I am subfertile and a pregnancy would be almost miraculous, but after desperately wanting another child for the last 5 years I have come to the conclusion that it would be a pretty dumb idea, especially as I start my teaching career and my husband is unemployed!

Well with the kids away I thought long and hard about appropriate couple time. Of course it also had to be cheap! Last night was lovely. Our friends A&P took us out to a nice restaurant. P has just found out she is pregnant after 9 months of trying and one miscarriage. A is over the moon! We are very happy for them too! Dinner conversation was great! A is also studying law as a postgrad so he and W talked law and then medicine (A&P are in the medical field). We then talked theology and I got on my postmodern post-reformation bandwagon and moaned about how stuffed religion was and how Jewish law was trying to be interpreted in Christian ways by fundamentalists and the message of Jesus was being lost! I think W was a bit shocked but hey! He is upset at me not going to church, he needs to know I am still thinking about spirituality! Of course I would probably not get up in a classroom and say that the 10 Commandments need to be ignored of Jesus' great commandment and that love and respect should be paramount in human dealings and telling people what they can't do only emphasises the want to do that thing!

This morning W actually brought me breakfast in bed– porridge and he soaked the pot afterwards! We had a nice chat and then I went to the gym. Before the kids get home I want to go and see 'The Devil wears Prada' and W is kinda interested. We were going to go tonight, but at the same time I would love to cook something that the kids would turn their nose up at (like something spicy!). So I have suggested to W that I cook tonight and even get some nice ice-cream and berries for dessert, with perhaps a chocolate sauce for him and we then chat. No telly, no internet (yikes!), candles, flowers, good crockery etc!

I am working until 8.45 tomorrow night so we will just throw our sleeping patterns out and go and see a late movie. I don't know when the last time was we saw a late movie, but certainly not since kids!

So I will do breakfast tomorrow! I have to be at WW by 8.45 so it will be early! But I will make sure it is nice!

Maybe this will help in the intimacy department!