SFB (aka W!)

Where to start with him. I suspect I have not been blogging about him because I don't want to reflect on his actions or my responses.

Basically his mood fluctuates. Not that that is new. At mediation he said that he wanted the communication book continued with. I have not been using it since he started using it to complain that the kids arrived tired, or without adequate shoes. I have said I will send him an email instead- he insists he wants things in writing. I don't think that that extends to him however.

One of the things he kept doing in mediation was calling me 'Mrs C...' I told him that I didn't know his mother was in the room to which he replied that he was glad that I was no longer using his name as it was a privilege to use his name, not a right.

The kids had their first 2 nights with W this weekend. He had already told me that he was unable to take Miss I to dancing as he had a presentation at uni. I rang in the afternoon and left a message on his mobile saying that I would be dropping them off after dancing. The kids had already asked him if they could go to a free outdoor cinema that evening. We got there just after 5. I kept trying his phone and it went straight to messagebank. I had already taken phone calls at home that afternoon as his messagebank message directs people to call him "at home on..." which is my home number. I have asked him to change it, but he won't. So he gets there at 6.30. The kids are agitated as they want to see The Lion King. No apologies from him or anything. Then he expects me to drive them into town and then is talking to his SIL on the phone and just says 'O drop us here' with no thanks or goodbyes or anything.

Then this morning at 5.45 he rings to say he is having another gallstone attack and needs me to come and get the kids. Last week I complained that he didn't ring me to come and get the kids until 8 when he had been in pain for 4 hours, so I should be grateful that he did ring. SIL is convinced it is gall stones, yet an ultrasound last year showed none. Could be pancreatits (sp?), could be anything. To be honest, I don't care. SIL dropped off the kids shoes that they had left there yesterday when W took them over for a visit. I think she just wanted to tell me how sick W is and what a difference her visit made- the medical staff basically implied to her that he was a substance abuser. She said that food was the only substance he abused. I know he drinks a lot, but she said that when he was staying with her she didn't think he had an alcohol problem. Whatever. Apparently he has been transferred to the private hospital and will have an ultrasound tomorrow. She thinks he will have surgery Tuesday, but is worried about his heart holding up. I could be a bitch and say that one can only hope it doesn't, but I won't say that, just think it ;-)