At last I am being listened to!

I had my first session with R today. She was lovely. I told her straight out that I thought the marriage was over. When I filled her in on some details she said that it sounded like I was acting in the best interests of my kids. Phew. The plan is that next week W will see her for half an hour then we will have half an hour together. She said that once someone in a relationship has made the decision that it is over then it usually is. She said that 80% of marriage counselling ends in separation, usually because it is too late. We agreed that the best possible outcome is W moving to a unit in town and still seeing the kids and perhaps even coming around for a meal once a week. Well maybe! She also recommended that I seek legal advice so that is on my list for next week.

W just doesn't get it. He seems to think that things will work out. He can't understand when I hardly want to talk to him. He thinks that things will work out. We talked about him a lot during the session and R decided that he really is worried about what others will think about our marriage ending.

So at least I feel heard and listened to. It may take some time, but we are moving that way.