Strenghts and weaknesses???

W is being an absolute turd. For this Friday's appointment, we both are meant to go in with our lists of strengths and weaknesses of both ourselves and our spouse. Well I did the teacher thing and added the third column- 'interesting points'. I have been able to find two strengths for W- faithful and intellectual. The rest are all weaknesses ranging from lazy to stubborn to inconsiderate to rude etc etc etc. Basically I have about 16 things in that column. Of course with mine I can't find many positives either and have come up with quite a few negatives. I also have a few interestings! Like I am a planner, but I always plan to leave things to the last minute. I don't think W has even started a list.

I had a real go at Wlast night. I was cooking dinner. Miss 8 had showered and Mr 5 was clearing away his train set. Miss 8 came to Mr 5 and said in a really sweet, kind and compassionate tone 'Hey J, when you play with my gameboy, can you please make sure you turn it of because the battery goes flat.' I said 'gee I, that was a lovely way to talk to J, thanks'. J said 'OK' and W said 'You can't expect him to turn it off when you leave your pens all over the lounge room. Go and pick them up'. Well I relaly flew at W and said to him how wonderfully well I had handled the situation, how she could have just yelled at J and how she has identified something that is bugging her and tried to sort it out instead of stewing over it or reacting inappropriately. W just then went off at me and I left the room.

I am relaly beginning to think that separation is looking like a bloody good idea. W said the other night that he now doesn't want to go on holiday to see (my) family and I was so tempted to say well good, but make sure you have moved out by the time we are back...