A Separated woman

Yep. it is official. I am separated. I actually wrote it as my marital status on the form at the massage therapists yesterday. Yep, I treated myself to an hour long massage courtesy of some of my bestest friends who decided flowers might die! I could have spent it on groceries, but decided a massage was in order. My shoulders are aching today, but in a good way.

Anyway. W rang yesterday morning to tell me he had been taken to another hospital the night before with a BP of 220 over something and stomach pains. He had a bill and asked me how I was going to pay for it! I reiterated that it was his problem to solve. He went off at me for over 20 minutes and I kept to my demands- he was not going to move back here. He told me that he wanted the kids to ring him and I reiterated that I was not denying him access to them. I rang the nurses station after I got off the phone to him and they were going to check on him.

So he rings last night and asks to speak to I &J. Miss I has a confused look on her face when she hands to phone to J. J just gets in first and tells W all about what had happened at school then says 'I'll give you to Mum, bye'. Later on, Miss I tells me that W told her that she needed to call him W now because I had said that he was not their father. So we had a big talk about how daddy is sick and says things he doesn't mean.

This morning I rang the nurses again and they said that really it is Dr P in charge of W's case. So I rang his rooms for a chat. He rang me back this evening. I told him that I was worried that W kept talking about killing himself and also how inappropriate he was with the kids giving last night's example. Dr P said that W was only in brissy for crisis management and that he would probably be back here next week. Again I stressed that he wasn't coming back home. Dr P understood. He said that he had arranged for W to see a social worker. Interestingly he also said he didn't think W was depressed, but rather he has a major personality disorder that will take months, if not years, if not forever to fix. He did say that it is a possibility that W will never change as well but he will need to work through it with P. He told me that he didn't think W was serious about his suicidal thoughts and that if I were to say 'Darling, of course you are right and reasonable and I love you and come home now' his depression would disappear, hence he is not depressed and the medication is not doing much.

Don't know if it is a relief to hear this or not, but I think it is.

And in centrelink news... I am lucky J was born the day he was as if he were born a day later I would not qualify for single parent pension, but rather 'New Start' which is really the dole or something and has a lower income threshold so I am better off or something. I have a half hour telephone interview next week and have to get W to sign a form to give me the family allowance. If he refuses it doesn't matter as they will write to him and if he doesn't reply within 2 weeks then I will get it anyway. W is not happy with this, but f*ck him.